Daily Devotion, 06/01/2018, “Gracious and Attractive”
Colossians 4:5-6 NIV
Live wisely among those who are not believers, and make the most of every opportunity. Let your conversation be gracious and attractive to that you will have the right response for everyone.
I figured out a long time ago that I can’t argue anyone into the faith any more than I can argue them into changing their political views, favorite teams or opinion on who builds the best pick-up trucks. (That would be Toyota in case you’re wondering :) In our highly opinionated and deeply divided culture, it seems that most everyone has a different perspective of most everything and many are quite rude and vocal in expressing what theirs is.
I’m reminded of a principle that I try to apply in my marriage that goes something like this, “You can win the argument and lose the relationship.” The point of my talking through something with my precious Sharon is not for me to win the argument and therefore defeat her. The goal is for us to openly, honestly and respectfully discover common ground together. I can win the argument and lose her heart. What’s the point in that?
Apply that same principle to how you live your life in front of those in your circle who are far from God. Let it guide how you converse with them. You miss an opportunity when you go from loving them and engaging in an open, honest and respectful conversation to trying to win the debate. If your words are not wise, gracious and attractive, they most likely will be foolish, judgmental and divisive. Don’t get baited into engaging in meaningless, self-serving chatter.
You are loved!
PS This especially applies to social media. Making a public “rant” against something or someone, in my humble opinion, is foolish and immature. If you have an issue with someone, I encourage you to pray first and then have the courage and integrity to have a conversation with them one on one.